They say that everything is a numbers game and if you listen to some experts you would believe that it takes between 25 and 30 times before you will find somebody who you really want to be with. Whether you believe this figure or not, it stresses the point that you need to have a realistic dating attitude.

How much pressure do you put on yourself when you set yourself up for a first encounter with a guy? If you don’t have a realistic dating approach the chances are that your meeting will be doomed before it starts. Always maintain an open mind.

When you have been alone for a long period of time, it is quite natural to feel that you are “due” to meet somebody of your dreams. You must try and put these thoughts to the back of your mind as they may well cloud your judgment otherwise. For example, you might think that your first date went so well that he is definitely the one for you, but really you should be looking for that special spark first.

If you remember that the process of realistic dating requires you to ask many questions of yourself, then you will not make too many rushed decisions. Never lower your standards or compromise, even if you think he is great “eye candy.” It takes so many things to make a relationship work and you should let your gut feeling decide for you.

They say that you should be careful what you wish for and this should remind you to ask yourself some deep questions. Are you really ready for a long-term relationship if it comes around? This takes a lot of commitment, don’t forget.

If you have just left a relationship for one reason or another and have experienced some pain from doing so, you’re not likely to achieve a realistic dating result right away should you jump back into the fray. Take enough time to recover and reassess where everything is and remember that you must be happy within yourself, or it will come across to somebody else.

The first thing that you should do when going out on a date is to try and establish a good friendship. Every long-term marriage revolves around this essential element and if you think this way you will not put too much pressure on your perceived need for a mate.

If it all possible, try and see whether you have anything in common with a dating partner in advance. If he has been recommended to you, does this come from a position of trust? If you have met him at a common venue, such as a sports club or if you know that you share similar values or goals, then this may help in the the long run.

Author Alan Bentley has a lot of information to help you understand realistic dating. A fantastic resource is available at www.cracktheguycode.com.

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